Healthy relationships thrive on
security; unhealthy ones are filled with provocation, uncertainty and
infidelity. If your partner constantly creates love triangles and brings in the
opinions of others to validate her point of view, then you need to be aware
that this behavior is considered emotional abuse, and a form of covert manipulation.
She does this to an excessive extent in order to play puppeteer to your
emotions.
Triangulation is a popular way
the narcissist maintains control over your emotions. Triangulation consists of
bringing the presence of another person into the dynamic of the relationship,
whether it be an ex-lover, a current interest, a relative, or a complete
stranger.
This triangulation can take place
over social media, in person, or even through the narcissist’s own verbal
accounts of the other man. The narcissist relies on jealousy as a powerful
emotion that can cause you to compete for her affections, so provocative
statements like “I wish you’d be more like him,” or “He wants me back into his
life, I don’t know what to do” are emotional abuse designed to trigger you into
competing and feeling insecure about your position in the narcissist’s life.
Unlike healthy relationships
where jealousy is communicated and dealt with in a productive manner, the
narcissist will belittle your feelings and continue inappropriate flirtations
and affairs without a second thought.
Triangulation is the way the
narcissist maintains control and keeps you in check — you’re so busy competing
for her attention that you’re less likely to be focusing on the red flags
within the relationship or looking for ways to get out of the relationship.
This is only one of the manipulative ways a narcopath controls those in their lives.
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