8 signs your girlfriend is a sociopath

#1) Sociopaths are charming. Sociopaths have high charisma and tend to attract a following just because people want to be around them. They have a “glow” about them that attracts people who typically seek guidance or direction. They often appear to be sexy or have a strong sexual attraction. Not all sexy people are sociopaths, obviously, but watch out for over-the-top sexual appetites and weird fetishes.

#2) Sociopaths are more spontaneous and intense than other people. They tend to do bizarre, sometimes erratic things that most regular people wouldn’t do. They are unbound by normal social contracts. Their behavior often seems irrational or extremely risky.

#3) Sociopaths are incapable of feeling shame, guilt or remorse. Their brains simply lack the circuitry to process such emotions. This allows them to betray people, threaten people or harm people without giving it a second thought. They pursue any action that serves their own self interest even if it seriously harms others.
 
#4) Sociopaths invent outrageous lies about their experiences. They wildly exaggerate things to the point of absurdity, but when they describe it to you in a storytelling format, for some reason it sounds believable at the time.

#5) Sociopaths seek to dominate others and “win” at all costs. They hate to lose any argument or fight and will viciously defend their web of lies, even to the point of logical absurdity.

#6) Sociopaths are incapable of love and are entirely self-serving. They may feign love or compassion in order to get what they want, but they don’t actually FEEL love in the way that you or I do.

#7) Sociopaths never apologize. They are never wrong. They never feel guilt. They can never apologize. Even if shown proof that they were wrong, they will refuse to apologize and instead go on the attack.
 
#8) Sociopaths are delusional and literally believe that what they say becomes truth merely because they say it!

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Contact With My Grandson

Due to the conflict with my son and his girlfriend, my contact with my grandson has been limited to telephone contact and Instagram.
His sociopathic mother continues to make vague derogatory comments about us not seeing our grandson, yet she makes it impossible to do so. My grandson no longer has possession of his phone and his mother has blocked access on Instagram.

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Letter To My Son

I believe the saddest day of my life was the day you told me I was dead to you. I heard only venomous anger in your voice. I am positive today will go down as the loneliest day in my life.  

I loved you before I ever met you, and I have loved you since the instant I held you in my arms. I did not truly grasp the meaning and significance of unconditional love until you came into this world. You have always amazed me in so many ways. You were such a bright, articulate child with a vivid imagination. You believed you were the best at whatever you did, and so you were. I remember one day being worried when I couldn't find you, and in my search, I got myself turned around in the woods and just before full panic set in, you found me. I remember you firmly taking my hand, and with more confidence than most grown men, said 'don't worry momma, I'll take care of you', and you did. I always believed you and I would be close forever.

It devastates me to see how hostile you are toward me. The hurtful names and derogatory remarks were intentionally used to inflict the most pain you could without actual physical contact. It is evident malice is all you feel for me in your heart now. I never wished you dead. Like everything else in the last few months, even this was twisted until I was accused of saying you were dead to me, which is an absolute lie. The day you said we were dead to you, I wrote 'I lost my son today', and I have lost you. 

You violated social norms, crossed cultural and personal boundaries that 99.9 % of us would never even contemplate, much less carry through with such impunity. There is absolutely no justification for the way you treated me REGARDLESS of what you believe I said or did. 

Everyone gets angry at their parents at one time or another. I recall being so angry at my own father that I refused to call him Dad, and I recall major fights with all 4 of your grandparents. I still hold animosity toward your Pawpaw for the cruel things he said about Granny and Belle-Anna. Maw-maw crushed my heart when I was pregnant with you over a misunderstanding. I remember when Pop learned your dad and I had married. He was so angry. He pushed your dad up against the wall. He refused to even acknowledge your dad's existence for a long time. For a man who did not hold his tongue and would fight at the drop of a hat, your dad never retaliated. Do you know why? Respect for his elders. They eventually became as close as any father and son. Had your father disrespected him the way you and Nikki have done to both of us, the close relationship they shared would have never happened. 

These are only the MAJOR things I can recall at the moment. Despite all our disagreements,  we never belittled, humiliated or disrespected your grandparents the way you have done me, nor would we have ever allowed anyone else to do so. It's my opinion that once a person crosses those lines, there is no longer a relationship to salvage. I will not allow you the opportunity to shatter my life again.

Just because you say I am dead to you does not mean I feel the same about you. Regardless of how you feel about me, regardless of your unwarranted anger toward me, and regardless of your untrue and baseless accusations against me, you cannot make me stop loving you or stop worrying about your well-being.

I worry about what will become of you and how you will feel when you realize the magnitude of the decision you've made. What will happen when you need to talk, or need encouragement, or need someone to just listen and you realize that more often than not, that someone was me? I trusted you unconditionally, and you never gave me any reason to doubt you or question your integrity or loyalty, until now. I would never intentionally hurt you in any way, and for the life of me, I cannot understand your motivation in lashing out at me.

You have made your decision to cut me out of your life, albeit for reasons you have never articulated. I cannot picture any scenario in which a relationship could survive the hatred and cruelty you've shown. If I could, I would see and do things differently. 

I do remember you and your family in prayer everyday. I have asked God to keep you safe and give you peace of mind and happiness. I wish the best for you and your new family and pray also, this is what you've been searching to find, because they are your only family now. I love you, son, and I will surely miss you until the day I draw my last breath.  

I will always and forever love you,

Your Mother

Response To My Son’s Narcissistic Girlfriend’s Efforts to Get Me To Pay Attention To Her

This was sent to me by you and my son a day or so before my trip to see Bryden with Hope and Neni.
Then you want to play your game of making yourself out to be a victim, and using your child to do so, by posting messages to me from his Instagram account while he was in school today?

then a few hours later you post this on FaceBook so everyone sees you as the victim of a mean ole person, and showers you with attention, which is all you want anyway.

NOW READ SLOWLY AND CAREFULLY:  I have asked you several times to stop contacting me. All you are looking for is drama, and as far as I’m concerned this is your problem, not mine. Now leave me alone. NO CONTACT MEANS JUST THAT, NO CONTACT.
Do not use your mother or my grandson to do your dirty work.

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Projection and the Narcissistic Woman

I have been dealing with such a person, and it is uncanny how she can turn ANY blame or fault of hers around and actually make other people believe she is the victim. I do not believe I would have ever had a need to research projection, nor even been aware of the facts I uncovered had it not been for my son bringing such a woman into our lives. Projection invariably occurs whenever a crisis point is reached. Since it is impossible for the Narcissist to admit thoughtlessness or error, it must have been someone else who was at fault. It is almost impossible to describe the feeling of confusion that the victim of Narcissistic abuse feels when they not only have to endure the abuse, but be accused of being the abuser as well. It is like falling down the rabbit hole, where up is down and right is wrong. The abused question themselves because of the very strength of their character, which drew the attention of the Narcissist in the beginning of the relationship. Other examples may be harder to recognize, especially if they don't involve violence. Was an unkind word spoken? If it was, then the victim was the one who uttered it. Did someone act irresponsibly in any number of areas, such as finances, sex, or relationships with extended family? If so, then it must have been the innocent party who was responsible, because the Narcissist is incapable of doing anything wrong. This can be proven through their prior solidification of admirable character through the practice of introjection. The ultimate mission of the Narcissist is to be adored, as a God, worshipped for the grand gift of their presence in the world. The Narcissist can not be changed, primarily because they enjoy being the way that they are. They revel in the power they are able to exert with their methods of physical and psychological torture. They will scoff at psychiatric counseling, because it will invariably point to their culpability and damaging behavior. However, they will cling to any diagnosis other than Narcissism which makes them the victim, rather than the villain. The best advice for someone who is suffering through a relationship with a Narcissist is to break it off. If children are involved, they should be isolated from the source of the conflict. Narcissism can invade the lives of the impressionable and claim them as its own. Since a Narcissist cares only for themselves, protestations over the welfare of shared children is pretence, and merely a subterfuge for their true intent to be the beloved center of attention.

Message to my son

I can't change your opinion of me, but if this is how you feel about your mother then I am nothing more to you than the woman who gave birth to you. I don't know how we got to this point but here we are. I will love you until the day I leave this world. Nothing will ever change that, but if you think I am out to do your harm then you are wrong. I am just speechless and confused. I foolishly believed we had a relationship beyond mother and son. I thought you considered me as a friend as well, but however you feel about me, you are my son, my heart. I would give my last breath to you.  Do you know what I have given up for you and for you to think for one minute that I would do anything to hurt you or drive you away is just insane.

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My Definition of Family

Family isn't only just about whose blood runs through your veins. Family is that circle of people who love you unconditionally, who believe in you, who are loyal to you even when you are not around, will stand up and defend you against ANYONE who talks trash about you, who has respect for the person you are, and who is there when you just need someone to listen or hold your hand through a crisis, whether you live down the street or hundreds of miles apart. Its someone you can go months or even years without seeing or speaking to and instantly pick right back up where you left off, as if no time had passed at all.

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